Good Morning Forever People!
Do you know yourself?
I was thinking about something I’ve heard people say time and time again,” know yourself.” How do we or people we know just unhappy with what they do as a job or a career? About how they would not take advancement in jobs for fear of being as unhappy in the position as their predecessor. And finally, to round out this little category, people who cannot envision themselves doing anything. I think people become lost, because they do not know themselves.
I recall having a conversation with my mother; the last collection of memories we built was of her and I having these conversations in the morning together. I would stroll down the street, because we lived on the same block, and come in and begin an almost always 1 to 2 hour conversation. And at some point be ushered out the door so she could get back to work. My mom’s job was being a data entry person who worked out of her house.
During those conversations I was contemplating what life was about, for me. Did I know myself?I, being the intense thinker, would party all night with my brothers, and stay awake until dawn thinking about life and what my purpose was. I then, would make my way over to my mothers house and talk about life with her. I remember asking my mother one of the Big questions one morning: what did you want to be when you “grew up”.
My mom’s answer was, in my opinion, the very opposite of what she was doing for a career. Her eyes lite up and she kept a strong smile, all while telling me about how she had wanted to become a veterinarian, specifically for horses. However, that life happened and that was no longer and hadn’t been a goal of hers for sometime. That raising me and my 4 other siblings, by herself, was her main goal. She told me that although her life was not what she had envisioned it to be when she had me, that she still felt very good about everything.
I, however, felt like my mom got burnt by life. How did this awesome person have to travel through so much heartache and not even get her own personal goal achieved? It seemed unfair to me and I had trouble grasping the concept my mother was trying to give me. A few years later she passed away from cancer.
Years after my mother’s death I came to realize my mother’s real sacrifice and achievement. She didn’t so much lose her own goals, but changed them. Her love of her children was great. She wanted to pursue a job that would grant her the money we needed to live. We became her goal. She gave a lot to her job and was able to work at home and help her family more. She created her purpose through sacrifice. Now, its not to say my mother Never got rewarded or took time for herself. Its so true that my mother was great with people. She found another “family” at a bar, her and my step-dad attended regularily, The Worth While, so ironic. Lastly, she accepted everything going on with her life. She had overcome some massive pit-falls in life and still managed to get a hold of a job that paid her well and was able to buy a home, and get remarried to someone she was very in love with. She got a lot of other goals. She knew what she wanted and was able to change with time.
Know yourself. When I come across people that are fearing their own personal enterprise I suggest they really look at what is important to them. I am a spirited person and I am always looking for the good opportunity and I am constantly pulled in many directions. So, I have had to learn what are My opportunities and what are just opportunities. Along the way of learning my own purpose and seeking out what is a good job and/or career, because no matter venture you go into you need capital, I have built and learned a formula or a thinking, if you will to being more successful in that area.
Know yourself. Life is not just wake up, go to work, eat, sleep, and repeat. And, even if it was, I believe there is a specific path for each of us, based on who we are and what we are seeking. Knowing who you are, by way of, what are your likes and dislikes, but also, how do you learn and what ways do you Feel and Think you are useful in many different situations. Here, you can go to one of many online places and get some helpful questions to get to know you.
Well, to wrap up this very long post, I will say this: know yourself. It is a simple thought, like many of the more deceptively complicated answers to life’s problematic arenas. I tell my friends and family on a constant basis, it seems, to get to know themselves. All the answers to the universe are inside us, we need only ask the right questions and be attentive enough to listen and understand. Much love.